Essentially the half way point on my 90 Day Journey to a better me. Over all so far so good. I am accomplishing the things I wanted to get done for myself, not all of them as even as I wanted, but with a little give and take, I am getting it done.
Lets reflect for a few minutes on the Why and What/How of the program I put together.
Why do this 90 Day Journey?
First and foremost for myself. I have things I want and need to work on to make future relationships successful. To also set myself up for some business successes in 2024 and 2025.
Also though, I would be lying if I did not say in part due to a break up. RS and I had an amazing relationship over all. But we hit some snags along the way, and I feel we both allowed some resentment to set in, and never cleared the air. Maybe I will just speak for myself though on this.
I allowed some resentment to set in and hang out. I should have been able to flush it and move on, but when I would try and “solve” the issue, I felt as though it was resisted, or that no headway could be made. So I held on to it, instead of finding a better/different way to process it out.
I am definitely someone who “wants answers”, I do not like unsolved things, so I held onto the arguments, the issues, in hopes a solution would present itself, in hopes I could solve the issue and then it would be done and gone, and we could avoid making that mistake again in the future.
I did not get that solution or answer, often, so instead of really making a decision as to if that Thing needed to be answered, or if I was just being a dick about it by holding on to it, I chose to hold on to some of them and allowed them to grind me down.
End of the day most of the issues we had, IMO, were pretty minor, at times a lot of small things (which can add up to a large thing), but individually likely not worth fighting or holding on to, when I am more than capable of flushing them and moving on. I did not do that though. I held many of them, wanting answers, wanting to solve them, where there maybe was no real solution other than flush it and move on.
The couple of items that needed to be discussed, Ok, we needed to discuss them, but they were clouded and junked up by the small things around them, creating too much chaos to handle as a group. I needed to prioritize them and find better ways to discuss the items/issues that had to be handled and let the small stuff go.
WAY longer explanation for the RS part of “Why do the 90 Days” than I thought it would be.
How and What am I doing in this 90 Days?
What is working and what is not working? How is the progress?
A self designed program, much of which was lifted from other programs I have looked into, but with my 0wn spin and reading list.
It involves a lot of working out, Peloton, weights, stretching. Things I need to do to get into better shape, stay in shape. My fathers passing shook me. While he was not in some great physical shape, 82 is not “old”, and based on what took him from us… nah not letting that happen to me, not that way.
I have always been in decent shape, but now I want good or great, Decent will not cut it.
Change in diet is also a big part of this. I have cut alcohol consumption by 50-60%. A lot more fruit and veggies, salads are a regular part of the diet also now. Gone from 2 or 3 energy drinks per day to 1 or 2 (2 is rare over the last 6 weeks). Smaller portions than previously as well.
Reading and Study is a cornerstone of this. Really likely the biggest part of this program, and unfortunately the part I am running behind on.
Bible study, daily affirmations, Church, 30ish pages a day in a selection of books that I want to get through that are all leadership, self help, sorts of books. Prayer a couple times per day as well. Studying some new skills, and advancing ones I already have. Working on video editing, need to get back to trading strategies and placing trades in Forex and SPY Options, social media marketing tools.
Progress so far is good. I hoped I would be a bit further along in some progress markers, but over all Good.
I am still weighing in at 198-203 on a daily basis. But the small bit of gut is a little smaller, chest is more defined, arms more defined. Legs are pretty cut I feel (all that Peloton…) Book not as far I wanted, will catch that up in Weeks 7 and 8. Study is a bit haphazard. I start working on a subject and find something I feel I need to bump a head, and then go down a rabbit hole or two, and finally get back on course.
I am working on two relationship programs right now as well the video editing.
Goals from this 90 Day Program?
Better shape. Better mental health, learn to deal with the small relationship stuff better, also learn to deal with the big relationship stuff better (more productively), add $40,000 to my income this year from other sources (side hustles as the kids like to call it). Round some corners, sharpen some edges in places that I need to be softer in, or need to just make a core value and non-negotiable. Step into the leadership role that I already have in daily life and work life, but really step into it and own it. I am so much better than I allow myself to be on a daily basis.
Cultivate a TRUE Positive Mindset. Gratitude, Thanks, Peace.
Change = Opportunity
Accountability = Happiness
The vast majority of this 90 Day Plan will persist well beyond the 90 Days. The 90 Days is to form the habits, the other 270ish days in the year are to make those habits real and gain from them. Move life forward, make some shit happen!
–Chris
