Tag: mental health

90 Day Journey – End of Week 10 Self Awareness (I forgot week 9…)

So first, I apologize Week 9, I forgot you… So I will include you with week 10.

Digging deep into who you are, discovering the Why, and even the Who, What, When and Where, are important. If you have not taken a few days at some point in your life to really dig in and ask yourself “Why…” like Why do I react that way to situation X, why do I believe in Thing Y, etc, you are missing something.

Often these tidbits are not Life Altering, or some huge discovery about yourself, but they are important. BUT if something is big and life altering, then you have done yourself a favour.

Self Awareness, and being HONEST with yourself about who you are, what you believe, how you want to live, how you want to love, is some clarity that I believe very few of you ever really get.
We all know Who We Are, but do we REALLY know Who We Are?
The answer will shock the fuck out of you.

Elements of Self Awareness – Self Love, Confidence, Self Acceptance
These elements are not used to fool yourself into a delusional state, that would be the opposite of Self Awareness.
You could easily use “Confidence” to hide things, build up around them. That is not real Confidence.
Confidence is there to allow you to be Honest with yourself, look yourself in the eye and accept what you truly see (self acceptance) and then employ Self Love to improve upon it, or realize it is what it is, accept it and move on.
Not every weakness you find or see needs to be worked on. Sometimes they are just what they are, and the effort to truly improve them is not worth the time and extreme added effort, when you could do so much more with that effort on either a different weakness, or a strength and gain exponentially more. BUT Accepting It is ALWAYS worth it, Acknowledging it is ALWAYS Worth it.

What have I discovered recently about myself with this process? Glad you asked:
I allow the status quo to set in too often, give up the fight for change too easily.
I am not straightforward enough with employees and co workers when it matters most. (sort of part 2 of the status quo weakness)
When something finally has to be done, I knee jerk react to it, because I allowed the status quo too linger too long and now it has to be solved.
I am smart, determined, flexible and capable of almost anything I set my mind too (as long as I cure the status quo part…)
I avoid confrontation in situations that really need it, and confront at times in situations that do not need it (part of the knee jerk reaction from above).

There are a host of other things as well, strength and weakness, but these were the higher level ones and things I have chose to work on actively.

Now on to the Fun Stuff:
On May 5th – 7th I got to head to Eastern Washington for some fantastic wine events, a tour of Cascade Cliffs and the Leonetti release party. While there did some tastings at Gramercy, L’Ecole, Lagana, Col Solare and Jacob Williams.
Some FANTASTIC wines in that group. I will get some content out around those this week and a post or two.

Happy Weekend and looking forward to a great week a head for all of you!

–Chris

90 Day Journey – End of Week 7

Staring to get comfortable with my Daily Update vlogs, still need a lot of work on them though. But feeling good about them.
That is step one into the longer format videos I want to do.
Did a couple of food ones also, with the Shrimp and Grits one hitting almost 15K views on the TikTok so that was nice.

This week was filled with some time challenges, I did not get as much done as I wanted, but still a lot. Work outs are going well. Core is three days a week, peddling is 5-7 days and then arms, chest & back and legs are one day each.
I am hoping some Ab’s start to show soon.

Garage is coming along, need to finish it this week. Then Master Bathroom demo needs to start this coming weekend.

May is shaping up to be a BUSY month with a major wine tasting the first weekend and then Las Vegas the 2nd weekend.

Short post this week, plus a day or two late. Will focus more on Week 8 results and thoughts.

Thanks all!
–Chris

90 Day Journey – End of Week 6

Essentially the half way point on my 90 Day Journey to a better me. Over all so far so good. I am accomplishing the things I wanted to get done for myself, not all of them as even as I wanted, but with a little give and take, I am getting it done.

Lets reflect for a few minutes on the Why and What/How of the program I put together.

Why do this 90 Day Journey?
First and foremost for myself. I have things I want and need to work on to make future relationships successful. To also set myself up for some business successes in 2024 and 2025.
Also though, I would be lying if I did not say in part due to a break up. RS and I had an amazing relationship over all. But we hit some snags along the way, and I feel we both allowed some resentment to set in, and never cleared the air. Maybe I will just speak for myself though on this.
I allowed some resentment to set in and hang out. I should have been able to flush it and move on, but when I would try and “solve” the issue, I felt as though it was resisted, or that no headway could be made. So I held on to it, instead of finding a better/different way to process it out.
I am definitely someone who “wants answers”, I do not like unsolved things, so I held onto the arguments, the issues, in hopes a solution would present itself, in hopes I could solve the issue and then it would be done and gone, and we could avoid making that mistake again in the future.
I did not get that solution or answer, often, so instead of really making a decision as to if that Thing needed to be answered, or if I was just being a dick about it by holding on to it, I chose to hold on to some of them and allowed them to grind me down.
End of the day most of the issues we had, IMO, were pretty minor, at times a lot of small things (which can add up to a large thing), but individually likely not worth fighting or holding on to, when I am more than capable of flushing them and moving on. I did not do that though. I held many of them, wanting answers, wanting to solve them, where there maybe was no real solution other than flush it and move on.
The couple of items that needed to be discussed, Ok, we needed to discuss them, but they were clouded and junked up by the small things around them, creating too much chaos to handle as a group. I needed to prioritize them and find better ways to discuss the items/issues that had to be handled and let the small stuff go.
WAY longer explanation for the RS part of “Why do the 90 Days” than I thought it would be.

How and What am I doing in this 90 Days?
What is working and what is not working? How is the progress?
A self designed program, much of which was lifted from other programs I have looked into, but with my 0wn spin and reading list.
It involves a lot of working out, Peloton, weights, stretching. Things I need to do to get into better shape, stay in shape. My fathers passing shook me. While he was not in some great physical shape, 82 is not “old”, and based on what took him from us… nah not letting that happen to me, not that way.
I have always been in decent shape, but now I want good or great, Decent will not cut it.
Change in diet is also a big part of this. I have cut alcohol consumption by 50-60%. A lot more fruit and veggies, salads are a regular part of the diet also now. Gone from 2 or 3 energy drinks per day to 1 or 2 (2 is rare over the last 6 weeks). Smaller portions than previously as well.
Reading and Study is a cornerstone of this. Really likely the biggest part of this program, and unfortunately the part I am running behind on.
Bible study, daily affirmations, Church, 30ish pages a day in a selection of books that I want to get through that are all leadership, self help, sorts of books. Prayer a couple times per day as well. Studying some new skills, and advancing ones I already have. Working on video editing, need to get back to trading strategies and placing trades in Forex and SPY Options, social media marketing tools.
Progress so far is good. I hoped I would be a bit further along in some progress markers, but over all Good.
I am still weighing in at 198-203 on a daily basis. But the small bit of gut is a little smaller, chest is more defined, arms more defined. Legs are pretty cut I feel (all that Peloton…) Book not as far I wanted, will catch that up in Weeks 7 and 8. Study is a bit haphazard. I start working on a subject and find something I feel I need to bump a head, and then go down a rabbit hole or two, and finally get back on course.
I am working on two relationship programs right now as well the video editing.

Goals from this 90 Day Program?
Better shape. Better mental health, learn to deal with the small relationship stuff better, also learn to deal with the big relationship stuff better (more productively), add $40,000 to my income this year from other sources (side hustles as the kids like to call it). Round some corners, sharpen some edges in places that I need to be softer in, or need to just make a core value and non-negotiable. Step into the leadership role that I already have in daily life and work life, but really step into it and own it. I am so much better than I allow myself to be on a daily basis.
Cultivate a TRUE Positive Mindset. Gratitude, Thanks, Peace.
Change = Opportunity
Accountability = Happiness

The vast majority of this 90 Day Plan will persist well beyond the 90 Days. The 90 Days is to form the habits, the other 270ish days in the year are to make those habits real and gain from them. Move life forward, make some shit happen!

–Chris